Monday, December 22, 2014

Today, I turn 40

I woke up this morning to a new decade. I am feeling very nostalgic and wanted to write a birthday post for two reasons: 

1. because I have grown very wise in the last 40 years
2. so Ann wouldn't post a bunch of cute pics from my glory days.

For those of you that are approaching 40, have surpassed 40 or are ringing in 40 in 2014, know this: You are not alone. 

In my 20s, I'm not sure what I accomplished, gained or endured. I got married, looked pretty good and started a family. No offense to anyone in their 20s, but I was clueless. I was invincible, naive and fingers crossed, heading into "real life" with a smile on my face. 
While I was very fortunate to get through my 20s unscathed, for me, my 30s were tougher. 
Real, if you will. 

Just the other night, I was reading the Velveteen Rabbit to the twins. Yes, they thought it was strange that I cried through a portions of it, but it is so true. There is a part where the skin horse says to the rabbit: 

"You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are REAL, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are REAL, you can't be ugly, except to those that don't understand...."
This got me thinking. 
I have seen a lot in the last ten years. I have been through a lot. 
I have given birth to three kids, lost almost everything
(materialistically speaking) in the economic down turn, rebuilt my design business and watched my husband rebuild a career. 

I have (more importantly) lost friends to cancer, almost lost my dad to a heart attack and watched loved ones endure challenges with their health, their marriages, having children, and then, raising them. 
Yes, after 40 years, my hair has been loved off and I'm loose in the joints. My skin is sagging in all of the wrong places. I have become REAL.  I may even be ugly to some, but only to those that understand... 
What is means to be REAL... 
I am 40 years old and I can say that out loud.
I know where I stand with my faith, my husband and my children.
I know that marriage is hard and it takes lots of work.
I know who my real friends are and had to find out the hard way.
I know that I am adored by God and am pursued by Him daily.
I know that my self-worth is in God and God alone. 
Because of Him, I have value.
I know that watching loved ones go through something is almost harder than going through it myself.
I know, with every passing day, how lucky I am to still have my parents and my heart breaks for those that don't. 
I know that while my body may sag in all the wrong places and I have the stretch marks to prove it, I am whole. I am healthy and I have all of my parts. I am thankful for something so simple because I know friends that have lost pieces of themselves to cancer, disease and heartbreak. 
I know that, while my children aren't perfect, they are entrusted to me and I am thankful I am the one that gets to screw them up.
I know that my job is just that, a job. Everyday, I get to do what I love and I am thankful that I get to effect people's surroundings and hopefully their lives, but at the end of the day, my faith and my family come first.
 
I know that this next decade will have it's challenges, 
but I am ready. 
Here's to 40!
 Bring it on...
-H

Friday, December 19, 2014

Deck the Halls

Recently, a client asked me to help her decorate their new home for Christmas. This is not one of my strengths. I can do it, but, being the impatient person I am, it isn't my favorite type of decorating so about the time the first strand of lights get tangled, I'm done. So, I called for back up. Edith Kerns has been decorating her own home, my own and friends homes for the last few years and the result is beautiful! Edith and I filled three shopping carts of ornaments, pheasant feathers and cotton bolls to create a low country masterpiece. Check out the result! Thank you Edith! It's beautiful! 
The family was planning an office Christmas party complete with bar-b-que and fireworks so the decorations had be stunning and natural all at the same time. The goal was to make it look effortless (even though it wasn't).
Edith added fresh greenery to the banister and tied in some glass ornaments and burlap tassels to add some sparkle. 
We mixed the ornaments from their collection (kids' and keepsakes) with some new glass balls, mercury glass and sprigs of cotton, branches and burlap for an organic effect. 




I love how it turned out and so do the clients! The party was a big hit and thanks to Edith, it was festive and beautiful!
bye bye birdie...
-H

photos via Frank Hart
G. Frank Hart Photography

Tuesday, December 16, 2014

Perspective


I have been given the gift of perspective this Christmas. Yes, as I am rapidly approaching 40 and after witnessing too many "design emergencies" and people with real problems, I am thankful for the gift of PERSPECTIVE this holiday season. Now, let me preface this by saying, I am also being awarded "mother-of-the year" as my second gift. Yep, when this happened.... 
 I screamed "Merry #$7*+#@ Christmas" in front of my kids. Graham said: Mom, is Teddy under the tree? I said: "No, thank God" and there it is. Perspective. This 10 foot massive tree that we hauled all the way out of the mountains on the top of my car (que sap lecture from Read), was laying across chairs, sofas and my oriental rug in ruins. But, no, it did not harm my dog or my children, so we should be thankful. And, because I. AM. SO. TIRED. (and there are people with real problems in the world). We aren't redecorating this tree that my kids named "Richard". 
With my husband away on business, I did what any sane mom would do. I undecorated the tree on Dec. 14th. I hauled it out of the house and left it on the porch (indefinitely) and I packed up the ornaments or what's left of them. I then took the leaf blower and opened the double doors to the outside. I blew out the 1,000,000,000,000 pine needles and glass into our back yard, vacuumed up the rest and put the furniture back. My kids watched in silence (they knew better) as their mom had either a manic moment/nervous breakdown or a pure moment of sanity mixed with wisdom and clarity. 
I asked the kids to bring in the nativity. Right in the spot where our tree was supposed to be for the next few weeks, we placed the TRUE meaning of Christmas. A scene of just as much beauty and marvel as that of a Christmas tree. I'm not suggesting you get rid of your tree and replace it with the beloved baby Jesus. But I am saying that instead of worshiping at the foot of a massive 10 foot tree lit from top to bottom and layered with tons of gifts, presents and surprises for our family and friends...STOP, for a minute and worship in awe at the true meaning of this Christmas season. Marvel at the gift we were given on that special morning. 

It is the gift that keeps on giving. It is the only gift that matters. For now, my children are happy with our new "tree". It holds a new focal point of beauty in our living room and we will gather around it this Christmas morning and hopefully many more to come. May you receive the gift of perspective this Christmas season. 
-H

Monday, December 15, 2014

12 Days of Christmas!

Yes, we have a theme song. Haven't you always wanted one? A song that plays while you go on about your day... Yep, after studying The 12 Days of Christmas, I realized, it has so many birds in it, it could be our theme song. Turtle Dove, Hens, Swans, Geese... 
For the month of December, "The 12 Days of Christmas" is now our official theme song. In honor of this festive tune can't get it out of my head,  we wanted to share some of holiday decor and gift ideas since we only have 12 days to go!  
Let the countdown begin!
On the first day of Christmas...
 I love Michal Aram ornaments, I have 1. They are quite pricey, so instead of hanging it on my tree, it sits on a book, all year long. Two Turtle Doves...
 Get your hands on a numbered Audubon plate like this one and you can score a piece of history and art.  I convinced Read to swing my Southpoint Mall on our way home from a trip. Er um, needed to do some Christmas shopping for me the kids. I mean, my kids love Anthropologie.
 Could you not just take these birds home for a centerpiece of mantle?
 4 Calling Birds... in an entry or coffee table? Swoon. Michael Aram rocks.
 FIVE GOLDEN RINGS....
 6 Geese a laying... loving these Mid-Century fliers from Ebay. Vintage goodness for a gallery wall or on their own...
 This vintage chair reupholstered in Highland Court showcases a pair of beautiful swans. It's in the details people!
 Tried and true. I couldn't resist for 8 Maids a Milking. The go-to for every asymmetrical space....
9 Ladies dancing. Nobody puts Baby in the corner....

10 Lords a Leaping... I'm at a loss. 

Hoping this will end up under our tree:
11 Pipers piping... Sonos. Enough Said.

A "drum" stool from 1st Dibs. Yes pleeeeaaaassssee.

Merry Merry Christmas and let the countdown begin!
bye bye birdie (swans, geese, turtle doves)... 
we are equal opportunity birds over here....

Friday, December 12, 2014

Friday FINDS at The Coop

So our Festive Flea was a big success. Lots of fab finds flew The Coop last Friday night, but that doesn't mean you can't still partake in some holiday shopping! 

Email us at birdsofafeatherdesign@gmail.com and we can meet you over at The Coop so you can see them for yourself! Check out today's Friday Finds (and yes, these are still available!)
 This lacquered desk is beautiful in person! 
 Lots of fun accessories and lucite....
 This console would be perfect under a TV
 Storage galore! Beautifully lacquered with gold accents. This piece would be great for linens in a bathroom, or books in a study. Fill with accessories, baskets or china. The possibilities are endless. In other exciting news, it's FRIDAY. TGIF and be sure to swing by The Coop -- we would be happy to meet ya!


bye bye birdie...

Friday, December 5, 2014

TONIGHT!!!! Festive Flea... See you soon...

WHEN: Tonight from 5-8
WHERE: THE COOP: 1930 Oleander Drive, Wilmington 
WHAT: FAB finds for your home and gifts for your friends...
oh and wine...

We have been working all week filling up The Coop with great finds for our Festive Flea! We have slashed prices and I must admit, priced the items while drinking.... hence lots of STEALS! Here's a SNEAK PEEK!
When our Flea is over, these beauties and many more are headed to our shop on One Kings Lane. What does that mean to you? The prices will go up on OKL so this is your chance to get them at killer prices. Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to you...our loyal clients and readers! 
Yes, this is INSANE. 
 We have lots of interest in this piece and now that it is lacquered, it will fly The Coop! 
Desk? Bar? Hutch for storage? Endless possibilities

The most perfect shade of Jade lacquer. 


YOU DON'T WANT TO MISS THIS. I promise.
bye bye birdie...

Thursday, December 4, 2014

The Festive Flea is TONIGHT!

WHEN: Tonight from 5-8
WHERE: THE COOP: 1930 Oleander Drive, Wilmington 
WHAT: FAB finds for your home and gifts for your friends...
oh and wine...

We have been working all week filling up The Coop with great finds for our Festive Flea! We have slashed prices and I must admit, priced the items while drinking.... hence lots of STEALS! Here's a SNEAK PEEK!
When our Flea is over, these beauties and many more are headed to our shop on One Kings Lane. What does that mean to you? The prices will go up on OKL so this is your chance to get them at killer prices. Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to you...our loyal clients and readers! 
Yes, this is INSANE. 
 We have lots of interest in this piece and now that it is lacquered, it will fly The Coop! 
Desk? Bar? Hutch for storage? Endless possibilities

The most perfect shade of Jade lacquer. 



YOU DON'T WANT TO MISS THIS. I promise.
bye bye birdie...

Tuesday, December 2, 2014

Thanksgiving Recap and the Festive FLEA

We hope you and your families had a wonderful Thanksgiving! I'm headed home from a family vacay in the mountains. Why, my kids aren't asleep in the back seat is BEYOND me... It was a whirlwind of fun, family and reminders of how much we have to be grateful for. For instance, we had just enough snow to build a snowman. 
Some man-made snow provided for some family tubing. 
Yes, that is me on the left looking like Billy Bob Thornton from Slingblade.... 
                           
Priceless.
 We ventured over to Bryson City, NC and took the Polar Express to the chilly North Pole - but stayed warm in PJ's with cups of hot chocolate. It was magical and I would highly recommend making the trip. 
 We believe.... 
 A visit to Santa was tricky. Graham and Flanner hit each other in the corner and called each other names while Hutson contemplated whether he was naughty or nice? WHY. WOULD. MY. KIDS. MISBEHAVE. IN. FRONT. OF. SANTA? There is no hope. My kids are getting coal. 
Finally, we ended the trip with a trip to the Christmas tree farm. Lots to choose from, but we selected the perfect tree (which may be needle-less by the time we get home). Yes, it is strapped to the top. In other news... Ann and I are busy little elves this week, gearing up for the Festive Flea at The Coop! We are so excited about our new arrivals and are working around the clock to slash prices and get The Coop ready for a party THIS Friday. Don't forget to mark your calendars and tell your friends.

We hope to see you there and are so thankful for our loyal readers!
                         Bye bye birdie...

 
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